favourite stan lee cameos
when old ladies are homophobic but have lesbian haircuts
what the fuck is a lesbian haircut??
the whole world is moving but you’re stuck, like those animals in the tar pits
Lisa Cuddy: *does her job, and does it well*
People: Oh my god, she’s such a bitch!
Consent means to give permission.
It is both people’s responsibility to get consent from their partners. Everyone has the right to decide whether they want to have sex or not.
· Freely given — no pressure, no manipulation, and no asking if it was ok to do halfway through or after the fact.
· Informed — telling them about any STDs they should know about, being honest about using condoms and birth control, and being honest about whether you’re sexually active with other people.
· Something you can take back — it’s ok to stop or change your mind at any time. Saying “yes” once doesn’t mean saying “yes” forever, or “yes” to other sexual activities.
· Enthusiastic — being excited about it, not just letting it happen.
When people think about consent, “no means no” often comes to mind. But saying “yes” is really important, too. A straight-up “yes!” means that no one has to guess or assume anything, and you’ll know they’re really into it.
'oh gross it's dark chocolate i hate dark chocolate'
give it to me
Hi, Emily. I was sexually abused as a child and have been diagnosed with depression and anxiety after a suicidal episode, so I know my perspective is skewed, but I can't accept treatment or talk to anyone. I know I'm supposed to make some effort to improve, but I've never wanted it badly enough. I don't think I'm worth it. All I really want is to not be here anymore and not to have to keep trying and failing. I can't kill myself, so how do I talk myself into wanting the things other people want?
Well, I have three thoughts for you, but first let me say how happy I am for you that you’re here today, here and now, bruised and battered as you may feel. How amazing that humans have the capacity to go through the trauma that you’ve been through and yet still be reaching and striving and on Tumblr. I thank you for your candor. I thank you for reaching out. I thank you for surviving.
1) You writing me is a sign that you do want to change, somewhere deep down in there. You may not be completely tired of how poorly you are treating yourself yet, but you’re getting there. See your message to me for what it is: a tiny message in a bottle that you’re throwing into the Tumblr ocean. Let your own actions give you hope.
2) If you’re not feeling the motivation within yourself to make changes, that’s okay. Changes are both internally and externally motivated, which is a fancy way to say that sometimes we’re faking it. Sometimes in life we’re doing the things “healthy” people do, even if we don’t feel we deserve them. Sometimes it’s in the act of doing these healthy things that we start feeling healthier. So I could tell you that of course you deserve to be healthier and feel better, or I could tell you to work on yourself for the people you care about, for me, for Tumblr, but I could also tell you the truth, which is for a little bit, you will be faking it. Faking healthy behaviors is okay. It’s part of the process.
3) Part of the horror of childhood sexual abuse is that it takes away your power, which is extra shitty because you already have so little of it as a child. But your abuser has had that power for long enough- power over how you feel about yourself, power over how you treat yourself. The fuckhead that abused you didn’t want you to have power, but you’re older now and you’ve already learned and grown so much. Think back to that child you were- that child wanted to grow up without this bullshit happening. That child wanted to be a “regular” grownup, with all the dumb trappings that involves. Let that child version of you, before the trauma, know that you are going to take the power back. In tiny tiny steps, you’re going to wrench your power back from this monster. You’re worth the effort. You are worth the pain and the joy and the exhilaration of a Tuesday.
Good luck to you. If you are feeling unsafe contact your mental health provider or someone close to you immediately. Continue to see the therapist you have and continue to make tiny steps. That’s all life is anyway.
Today, Ferguson is prepared to “keep it moving.”
I absolutely don’t get how the people who are pretending to be concerned about Mary and John being an abusive relationship justify everything Sherlock does to John. There isn’t actually a good reason to drug someone without their consent. Sherlock himself admits that he didn’t tell John about faking his suicide not because he had no way to tell John, but because he didn’t think John could be trusted to keep the secret. There is no good reason to tell your best friend he is going to die, when he’s perfectly safe.
But we all know the real reason why those behaviors are forgiven instantly but Mary’s actions aren’t.